How do i build my self-confidence?!?!?PLEASE HELP!!!! I DESPERATELY NEED YOUR HELP!!! SO PLEASE HELP ME!!!!?
How do i rebuild my confidence? I use to be the most talkative kid in all my classes two years ago. I use to be extremely confident and sociable. I use to be able to start up and keep a conversation with anyone and everyone. I use to not care what people thought of me because i though i was perfect the way i was since god made me that way.
Then, for a little bit, i was very depressed and lost all my confidence. I’m now recovered from my depression but still unconfident. I’m nervous talking to everyone that i don’t know well or aren’t friends with. I am trying to impress everyone, even my friends. Right now i want people to like me. I use to be satisfied with hwo i was before the depression. Now i feel i have to make people like me.
i already feel confident in my school work (straight A’s), achievements (when i set a goal i can usually accomplish it), and skills/abilities (i write, play piano, and do gymnastics). however, i have extremely low self-confidence in social situations. when i meet new people or talk to people im not comfortable with, i can rarely talk about myself; i feel im not good enough or dont measure up. i also have a hard time explaining things/telling jokes/stories around new people or people i dont know well. im fine around my friends, its just new people im self-conscious around. how can i become more comfortable with new people socially? what should i talk about?
how do i build my confidence? How do i love my self for who i am and stop trying to impress people. How do i just be myself around everyone. How do i learn not to care what people think of me? How do i learn to just be satisfied with hwo i am? How do i build my confidence to how it use to be two years ago? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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1. Work on your conversational skills
Improving your conversational skills can help you feel more comfortable and confident in any social situation which will lead to larger confidence overall. If you practice maintaining eye contact and being a good listener, you will also give off a more confident aura and you can enjoy the benefits of being treated as a confident person.
2. Set goals
As with anything you want to achieve, building confidence will be easier if you set specific goals. Whether you want to be confident enough to be president of an organization or simply give a presentation at the next department meeting, you can then create an action plan for achieving this goal.
3. Get involved
When you become involved in an organization, project or committee, the new experiences, improved skills and chances for leadership and personal development can help improve confidence. Think about joining a professional organization, signing up for a committee at work or volunteering your time at a worthwhile organization.
4. Use positive imagery and self-talk
The road to self-confidence is primarily a mental exercise. Visualizing yourself as a confident person is one way to create a confident mentality. Positive affirmations are another way of building confidence. Tell yourself that you are a confident person and don’t give negative thoughts room to grow.
5. Seek professional help
Motivational speakers make their living from helping people make the most of their lives, which often involves helping their listeners build confidence. If you can’t attend a seminar in person, many speakers also offer DVDs and CDs of their motivational performances. Numerous self-help books are also available that can lead you to helpful strategies for building confidence. Life coaches provide one-on-one help to assist customers in reaching their potential. If there are more deep-seated issues getting in the way of feeling confident, you may wish to look into counseling or psychiatric help. Depression and other illnesses can decimate your self-confidence, and simply thinking positive thoughts or attending a motivational talk aren’t enough to feel better.
6. Take small steps
Going along with the idea of setting goals, if you’re not feeling confident, you will be much more likely to achieve your desired level of confidence by taking small steps. Tell yourself that you will smile and shake hands with everyone you meet today or promise that you will offer your opinion on an issue at the next board meeting. This is much more likely to lead to success and start you on the path to confidence than jumping straight to a more daunting task like giving the keynote speech at a national conference.
7. Practice a confident attitude
You may have heard this sentiment expressed as, “fake it ’til you make it.” The truth is that you can gain confidence by acting like a confident person. Nobody needs to know that you’re cringing underneath your confident façade. Eventually you’ll no longer need to pretend. The success you experience from acting confident and the confident habits you’ve developed will lead to true confidence.
8. Look for confident role models
Whether you turn to co-workers, friends, family members or celebrities for inspiration, finding confident role models can help you become more confident yourself. It’s best if the person if you have real-life contact with the person you’re looking to emulate, but you can still get an idea of a celebrity’s personality and confidence-building strategies through interviews and books.
9. Try new things
New experiences can give you confidence by helping you grow as a person. You don’t have to take up skydiving or anything drastic like that. Starting a new hobby or taking a class is more likely to help you develop lasting skills anyway.
10. Be happy with yourself
Having an essentially positive attitude toward yourself is key to gaining confidence. You must be happy with the person you are, from your personality to your appearance, before you can truly be confident.
Gaining confidence requires hard work and dedication but it doesn’t have to be impossible if you take it one step at a time.
Its normal that you are more self-conscience because of your depression but remember that nothing around you has change. Its the idea that you make of yourself that is distorted.( not real ) You are absolutely right when you say that you have to stop to impress people. Don’t look for any type of validation. Concentrate on the people you feel comfortable around and if somebody make fun of you or whatever be assertive. Stand up for yourself without being aggressive. Know it can be hard to see all this but trust me it comes GRADUALLY! It take time but everyday you make progress you just don’t see it. Express yourself! Most of the time when people are depress is because their “mind” is telling them to take a break.
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